Dementia Widow: a memoir about love, death and survival (Iguana Books) launched in March 2026. Fay has also written a bi-weekly columns - Poke, Peel, Pair and Ponder, for the local newspaper since September 2022, and has had several op-eds and opinion pieces published in the Toronto Star.
The other expertise about which she speaks and publishes is creating affordable housing in rural communities.
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I can go in many directions related to caregiving for people w dementia. One gap I address is taking control of the care-giving function early in the dementia process and preparing for inadequate or inappropriate institutional support and assistance. Inappropriate and inaccurate understanding of the grieving process is another angle not usually available. Also how to talk w people w dementia in early/pre-diagnosis/active denial stage (and later). Or Or Or
I market myself as a 'survivor' of spousal care-giving, not an expert on dementia, but I have academic and professional qualifications if needed.
How precisely that would look would be tailored to the host situation, audience and intent.
it may be particularly pertinent in small rural communities where official resources are rare. It will in any case trend to assessing personal social networks to develop and sustain a tailored network of support and assistance. Might be adaptable to cultural subgroups that are not well-served.
